Forty years ago when the feminist movement was beginning to blossom, Germaine Greer wrote a book titled The Female Eunuch. She said that pregnancy is an illness and urged women to be “deliberately promiscuous” and be careful not to conceive. She said that women can change our society, but they must refuse to marry and have children.
Another feminist, Betty Friedan, wrote The Feminine Mystique around the same time. She said that homemakers are “parasites” in society and that traditional family is “burying millions of American women alive.”
For decades we have been told by feminists, Hollywood and television personalities, and even political figures, that the brightest and best women don’t choose to be mothers or they will defer becoming mothers until after they have secured their places in history through their careers.
Without realizing it, our culture has dishonored the role of mothers by suggesting that women should seek their significance outside of marriage and family. Helen Gurley Brown’s book, You Can Have It All, is simply wrong. Life is not about having it all; it is about establishing priorities and making sure the most important things get done first and get done well.
America sets aside a day to honor mothers and motherhood, but our actions the rest of the year tell another story. We really do not value mothers as God does. We do not understand how important - how critical - a mother’s role is in shaping the consciences and values and characters of children. Our culture respects woman as a producer and a consumer, not as a bearer and nurturer of children.
Ken Magid and Carole McKelvey wrote a disturbing book titled High Risk: Children Without a Conscience. They spoke about the growing problem of what they called “Maternal Deprivation.”
“What Happens, right or wrong, in the critical first two years of a baby’s life will imprint that child as an adult. A complex set of events must occur in infancy to assure a future of trust and love. If the proper bonding and subsequent attachment does not occur - usually between the child and the mother - the child will develop mistrust and a deep-seated rage. He becomes a child without a conscience” (p. 3).
A little boy was watching the evening news with his mother when a film clip showed the police accosting some criminals. The boy asked what was going on and his mother explained that they were bad men who had robbed a bank and had to be put in jail. The little boy said, “Gee, don’t they got a mama?”
The poet, Ann Taylor, was pointing out the value of mothers when she wrote:
Who ran to help me when I fell,
And would some pretty story tell,
Or kiss the place to make it well?
First Lady Barbara Bush was never known for her fashion statements. Goggle-eyed reporters never commented on her trim body or her exercise routine. But, in my opinion, she made one of the finest statements ever made to women in her address to the graduating class at Wellesley College in 1990.
“For several years, you’ve had impressed upon you the importance to your career of dedication and hard work. This is true, but as important as your obligations as a doctor, lawyer, or business leader will be, you are a human being first and those human connections - with spouses, with children, with friends - are the most important investments you will ever make.
“At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child or a parent.”
We honor mothers this Mother’s Day. God doesn’t honor mothers one day a year. He honors them every day. In God’s book, motherhood is a worthy vocation and is to be honored. Let’s join our God today and every day in honoring what He says is honorable.
Alan Day, Senior Pastor
Wed, May 5, 2010
by Alan Day, Senior Pastor